As an entrepreneur, Mom, Dad, friend, spouse, employee – basically, being any type of human being – the holidays can seem more than stressful. From buying the perfect gift to juggling your finances, work and everything in between it’s no wonder why we find ourselves worn out this time of year.
I used to stress a lot during this time of year and found myself losing sight of what was important during the holiday season. The holiday season isn’t a time where these negative emotions – stress, depression, anxiety – should surface. It is, however, a time to rejoice, find gratitude, peace, love and happiness. It seems so crazy how easily we can focus on the stressful events that pop up rather than rejoicing in the beauty surrounding this time of year.
My goal in writing this post is to help alleviate you of some of the tension this year and to help turn your perspective towards making it a less stressful end to 2015! Here are a few tips that have worked for me.
I will forever preach perspective, perspective, perspective! Is your glass half full or half empty? What is it that you are focusing on? Really take a second to think about this because I catch myself focusing on the not-so-great things when I have SO many things to be thankful for!
Example: Watching my bank account slowly deplete due to my some-what extensive shopping activities for my loved ones and I during this time of year.
Bad Perspective: “Waaa… my money is all gone. How am I going to eat? How will I survive?! This year sucks! I hate holidays!”
Good Perspective: I am so grateful I have family and friends to spend money on! I even got myself a cute little sweater! I know that this cost me money but that’s why I work so hard and I love being able to give and spend this time with my family.
BAM! Perspective slayed!
2. Take a Breather
Stop and take a second to literally smell the fresh air, pinecones, roses, whatever is out there for you. GET OUTSIDE and enjoy having a
moment to yourself – without your kids, co-workers, spouse – just you. Know that it is OK to call a time-out once in a while and that no one is going to scold you for that. I find that a lot of us tend to feel responsible for fixing everything that is broken and trying to make everyone happy when in reality, it’s not necessary. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. You are enough and taking time to replenish and recharge is going to help you be the best you you can be.
3. Live Within Your Means!
You do not have to be perfect and no one expects you to be. There are these made up standards that we set up for ourselves and these jobs that we feel we need to do in order to prove ourselves and to make others happy. We think that if we buy anything less than the biggest, baddest, greatest thing on the market we are a failure – NOT TRUE. Stop trying to one-up last year’s gift or catch up with the Jones’: it is not necessary to play this mind game with yourself. There are so many beautiful and inexpensive ways to show your loved ones you care and buying your 3-year-old an iPad doesn’t necessarily have to be on that list.
4. Enjoy The Moment Because It Won’t Last Forever!
This is the one that really helps me get through the holidays with a bright spirit, big smile and a lot of gratitude: living in the moment. Whatever is happening right at this moment will never be again. If you think about that for a hot second, you will realize that there is an abundance of wealth (not talking monetary form) around you. Be grateful for the people who are in your life and don’t take the fact that they are in your lives now for granted. Embrace the moments of watching children open gifts and see the excitement on their faces, hold conversations with extended family you don’t see often, enjoy the part where you are giving to those who you love and appreciate in your life.
These are some easy ways to get your mind right, your groove back and some pep in your step through these crazy times! I love the holidays so much and it pains me to hear about how depressed, sad and anxious people get. We only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough! Remember to enjoy yourself and squeeze in a little you-time. You deserve it!